What if I told you that you’re focusing on the wrong numbers and that many of you tell lies to yourself based on these numbers.
Consider the idea right now, that there’s a whole different perspective to be had about the numbers you let dictate your life. I’ll start with a biggie.
Number on the scale. You let THAT determine your self worth? You let THAT set your mood for the day? You're giving that hunk of metal too much control over yourself. A scale having any control over your life is too much control! I’m serious. Take a minute. Walk over to your scale and look at it, or picture your scale in your mind if you’re not at home. Please entertain the idea that you’re being ridiculous about the way you let that thing affect you. Then ponder this…
“The scale is a dumb device for measuring progress. It doesn't know the difference between fat weight, water weight, muscle, and poop.” Article here.
This article is a must-read! It’s awesome. I’ll leave it at that.
Age. I’m starting to realize that age really is what you make of it. Too many people create a lie in their minds that people ‘peak’ sometime between their teens and early-thirties. We’ve all seen high school classmates who really did reach the ‘highest’ ‘happiest’ times in their lives… in high school. High school! Whoa… where does that leave them for the rest of their years? I’m pretty content knowing that my high school years were awkward and an upward growing phase in my life. ….and that I have yet to ‘peak’ in any way, shape or form! I’m planning for myself that I’ll peak in my 70s or 80s and then enjoy a decade or two past that to ‘coast’ and relax :) Why not plan it like that!?!? I feel so much better at the age of 34 than I did at the age of 24. Enough proof for me to believe myself. I’ll keep on a-truckin with that plan then!
There are other numerical constructs that we may be misinterpreting. Our financial snapshot. Should the amount of money in our back account really determine our personal worth? As our dear mentor, Eric Fiorillo, has said on his podcast… money is a tool. I agree. It is a tool to be used as such. But it sure doesn’t dictate or define who I am.
Clothing sizes. Even those disappointed by the size of their current clothing realize and will admit that sizing is arbitrary. Brands run different. Which department you purchase your clothing from has different sizing guidelines. Let’s focus more on the body wearing the clothing. How does it feel? How much energy does it have to go about its day? Let’s also focus on the soul within that body. How authentic is it allowed to be? How at-peace is it within that body and under those clothes? It would rather you tune into those areas than the silly number on the tag on the clothes you’re choosing to cover up with.
Time. It’s also a tool. I often say that time is currency. I don’t know about you, but I really value my time. I’m very selective on who and what it gets spent on. I don’t brainlessly watch TV during the only hour or two I get to myself after the kids go to bed. I don’t ever waste a minute of time on learning the latest celebrity gossip or engaging in gossip about people I know. We don't even watch the news. ...all that negativity is hard to shake. It would bog me down if I’m not careful. My husband and I MAKE time to work out; that’s very valuable to us. I make sure I make time with my kids count, because that isn’t as plentiful as we’d all like. We all know how quickly kids grow up! I even maximize my drive time by listening to Eric’s show - well, let me clarify… I get a certain portion of the commute to listen to Eric, while our daughter gets a set amount of time to listen to her Nursery Rhyme CDs :) Time is all about how you choose to spend it and arrange it. Make it count! Treat it like you value it!
Wrongdoings done to you. Let em go. Keep reading for a mental visualization technique I use to help me let shit go. I guarantee if you let go of emotional baggage it'll be reflected in your physical health. Absolute guarantee. They're one and the same.
Minutes you log in the gym. I could drain my tank in 11 minutes using the prowler and feel its effects for 2 days... or putz around a gym for an hour and a half and not accomplish any true physical conditioning! The number of minutes themselves are not indicative of the intensity in which you exercised. Don’t fool yourselves, it’s only you who you’re cheating. Instead, be honest with yourself and make changes accordingly. I prefer more bang for my buck… quick ‘tank-drainers’ like the three full body compound movements and intense ‘finishers’ like pushing the prowler, farmer’s walks, salt bag carries, and sledgehammer swings.
All that being said, I will admit, there are some numbers I pay attention to in my life and evaluate myself against. The number of blessings in my life. The number of people and students I smile at in a day (ok, I don’t necessarily count those per say, but you get the idea). The number of Saturdays a parent is given to spend with their kids before they’re 18 years old… 940. 260 of them are gone by their 5th birthday. I want to read the book where this reminder is given - No Regrets Parenting by Dr. Harley Rotbart. Let me know if you’ve read it and what you gained, it looks like a good read. Here’s a fun number we’ve focused on lately… the highest number of enchilada’s I’ve eaten in one sitting at our favorite restaurant… 4! When you lift heavy you want to and need to eat like you lift heavy!
As I close, can I call you to do something? Mentally put those arbitrary numbers, and all of the value statements you’ve created because of them, into a picture of a balloon in your mind… stuff them in there… and... release them. Feel the release. Believe in the power of that release. Do this as often as they creep into your mind. Keep your mind free and clear to focus on better things, truthful things, like... how awesome you are. Or what you CHOOSE to accomplish ...at your age...and weight...in your current sized clothing… with the valuable and limited time that you have.
Aren't we being kinda ridiculous with numbers? You know I’m on to something.
I am a wife, mom to two and teacher. I have a lot of things I'd like to go after in this lifetime!